Questions people ask

A community site about lingerie, fit, and the questions women ask about their own bodies. Members post reviews, outfit photos, questions, discussions and stories; anyone can read the whole thing without an account.

Alongside the community there is a knowledge base of longer guides, four free calculators, a directory of brands with the community's posts about each one attached, and a handful of tools for members. We are not a shop. Nothing here is for sale and no post is sponsored. There is more detail on the about page.

Mostly women looking for practical advice about fit, shape and underwear, and people who like lingerie and want to talk about it with others who do.

You do not need to know anything about bra sizing to ask something here. "Which of these fits better?" is a perfectly good post, and so is a question you would feel awkward asking a shop assistant. The one rule that is not negotiable is that nobody gets judged for the question, or for what they choose to do about it.

No, to all of it. Reading is free, an account is free, and there is no paid tier, no subscription and no premium anything.

There is also no advertising on the site, no affiliate link anywhere in it, and nothing for sale. That is not a promise about the future written to sound good - there is no ad code and no affiliate code in the site at all, which is why the editorial policy can state it flatly.

A username, an email address, and a password of at least eight characters. A display name is optional. That is the whole form: no phone number, no confirmation email to click before you can post, and no invitation needed (invitations exist only for moderators).

One thing worth knowing: a limited number of accounts can be created from the same internet address inside a few hours, which is how the site keeps spam signups down. If you are setting up a second account for somebody on the same connection, you may have to wait a while. Register here, or log in if you already have an account.

No. Photos are optional on every post. Plenty of what is here is text: a question about sizing, a review of something that arrived badly, a discussion, a story. You can take part for years without ever uploading a picture.

Reading needs no account at all, and the articles and calculators are open to anyone. Photos are just one of the things the site supports, not the price of entry.

Yes, and it is a choice you make per post rather than a setting on your account.

When a post is anonymous your name is not merely hidden by the page - it is removed from the data the site sends out, so there is no name in the page source, in a devtools Network tab, or anywhere else to dig up. Anonymous posts are also kept out of your public profile listing, because a listing attributes a post by the page it sits on whatever the data omits.

Moderators and admins can see who wrote it. That is deliberate: a post nobody can be held to invites fabrication, and a story that draws abuse has to be actionable.

One thing that catches people out - if you comment on your own anonymous post, the comment is signed by your account, because a comment is signed by whoever wrote it. Separately, every post has three visibility settings: public, members only, and private.

Yes. You can delete any post or comment you have written, and you can edit your own posts. You can also close comments on your own post at any time without asking anyone, which leaves the comments already there visible but stops new ones.

The same applies to anything you send to the tools: whatever you uploaded is deleted immediately, file and record both, when you ask for it. There is no approval step and no soft delete.

Yes, and it is the reason stories exist. Nobody types a long personal story into a web form.

You record in your browser, the recording is transcribed on this site's own server rather than sent to an outside service, you edit the transcript as much as you like, and you publish the text. Your words, tidied by you, never rewritten into the site's voice.

The recording itself stays private by default and is stored where the web server cannot serve it, so no URL reaches it. Publishing your voice is a separate question asked for each story, it defaults to no, and it is reversible in both directions - you can unpublish the audio and leave the text up.

A story is an ordinary post underneath, so it has the same comments, the same visibility settings and the same anonymous option as anything else you post.

Two kinds of people. The site's own guides are published under the site itself rather than under an invented byline, because inventing an author would be a lie about the one thing a reader has to take on trust. Members can publish articles too, once they have actually taken part: five comments across five different days. Where a member wrote a piece, her name is on it.

On anything to do with health or anatomy, every factual claim is linked, in the sentence that makes it, to the NHS, the CDC, ACOG, WHO, NICE or a Cochrane review, and nothing is published that could not be checked against a source read while writing. We do not employ a doctor and we do not claim a medical reviewer, because there is none. The whole method, including what we will not do, is at how we write.

No. The guides describe what the sources say a condition is, what treatment generally involves, and when those sources say to see somebody. They never tell you what you have, which medicine to take, or how much of it. Those are decisions about one particular person and every route to one ends at a doctor or a pharmacist.

A page that cites the NHS is still a page, and it does not know anything about your body. If something worries you, or is new, or will not settle, that is a conversation with a clinician and not with a website. The thrush article is a fair sample of how the health writing here is put together, and how we write sets out the rule.

Nowhere. All four calculators run in your browser. Nothing you type is sent to this site, stored, or attached to an account, and you do not need an account to use them.

They are arithmetic, which makes them useful and narrower than a confident result makes them look. The bra size calculator uses the modern method with no adding four inches to the band, and reports US, UK, EU, AU and JP sizes. Body shape, face shape and hair type do the same kind of job. The breast shape quiz is the exception: it keeps your answers for a while, with nothing that identifies you, so we can check it works, and it says so before the first question.

Most wrong results are wrong inputs rather than bad maths, so the calculators, honestly covers how to hold the tape and, for each one, the exact point where it stops being able to tell you anything.

It is stored for a fixed number of days and then deleted, file and record both. Two of the tools take a photograph, and they keep one for different lengths of time:

• What does this photo resemble: 7 days.
• Which types are you closest to: 14 days.

While it is there: it lives outside the directory the web server can serve, so no URL reaches it and no link to it can exist. The only person who can open one is the site owner, through a single endpoint that exists so a failed run can be diagnosed. Moderators cannot, deliberately. Other members cannot.

You can delete yours at any time, immediately, with no approval step. The timed deletion is enforced by code that runs on ordinary requests rather than by a timer somebody has to remember, and each page states its own number in plain words before the upload box, read from the same constant the server enforces.

Neither tool ever tells you who is in a photograph, and the member version does not compute face data at all. If you would rather upload nothing, the self-measurement quiz answers a nearby question with no photograph, and the intimate hair timing quiz stores nothing whatsoever - no record, no row, nothing to delete.

Yes, and it is written for somebody typing exactly that at one in the morning. Are my labia normal? is the front door: what the actual range covers - length, asymmetry, colour, edges and how all of it changes over a life - why this particular worry became so common so recently, what genuinely warrants a doctor (the line is function, never appearance), and a straight account of labiaplasty with nobody campaigning at you.

Two members-only tools sit beside it for anyone who wants something more specific: a self-measurement quiz that needs no photograph, and a photo comparison that shows how close you are to each of nine described types. Neither announces a verdict about your body, and the reason is measured rather than squeamish: the categories sit too close together for a single confident answer to be honest.

Twenty-eight pieces on what your face, hands, posture and voice do before you have decided anything: 28 things your body says before you do.

Almost everything published on this subject is written for somebody watching a woman and trying to work out what she means. This is written for the woman doing the signalling: what your body already does, where the habit came from, what it costs or gives you, and whether to leave it alone. It is also honest about the part that genre skips - one gesture means nothing on its own, and the boring explanation is usually the right one.